Not Everyone Is for You

One thing about growing up is that people drift apart.

The way we think evolves, either for the better or worse. Lifestyle choices are not in agreement. Sometimes, people want to surround themselves with like-minded individuals. Whatever the reason, someone is bound to be hurt.

As I get older, I’ve found it challenging to foster friendships. Some people say the most unhinged things or are the most negative people I have ever met. Others make unsavory comments with little to no awareness. And depending on the setting, you pick your arguments carefully. So, my response has been to draw the line carefully or build a brick wall.

I’m a person who believes that friendships come before romantic relationships. Why? Because many of our most genuine relationships sprout from interactions with family and friends. I didn’t initially have this belief. Some could probably attest that I was down bad in my first romantic relationship. I’m embarrassed when I think back on it. Anyways, when your romantic relationship shows genuine commitment, we can discuss the circumstances or that relationship moving up in priority. I want you to understand that platonic relationships are just as significant as the romance you seek. Social connection is so vital that it has an impact on longevity. The quality of our friendships serves as a buffer against depression and anxiety (Abrams, 2023).

We’re in month 3 of 2025, and it isn’t too late to decide what relationships are best for you and which ones should be tossed in the can.

With all my love, Val

Reference:

Abrams, Z. (2023, June). The science of why friendships keep us healthy. American Psychological Association. https://www.apa.org/monitor/2023/06/cover-story-science-friendship